Day Twenty-Six: Responding with what is better.

I am going to tell you something that makes no sense. Are you ready? The best argument against people who troll you, harass you, spew hateful comments about your religion, or mock you is to say nothing. Don’t argue. Don’t bring your proofs. Don’t try to explain yourself. Do nothing. At the end of the…

Day Twenty-Five: Backseat Barakat

I was very frustrated. I had great plans about what I would teach my children. I would introduce them to the Quran, and stories of the prophets. I would read great pieces of literature to them. I would help them master basic maths and set them up for a lifetime of numeracy. But, I found…

Day Twenty-Four: The Fiqh of Fasting

In case this is your first year fasting (in which case, welcome, leave me a comment, I am always happy to meet fellow converts or returnees) or maybe you just need a refresher. Whatever the reason, we are just under a week away from the blessed month, so it’s time to start reviewing the fiqh…

Day Twenty-Three: Where do you Islam?

I had to share this video clip with you because I think that this topic and similar discussions are so important for those of us who live in the “West”. As we move into Ramadan I can’t help but be aware of how many Muslims I will see in the next month that I will…

Day Twenty-Two: Water

One of the biggest issues we face during these long summer days of fasting is hydration. Staying hydrated become a huge challenge. Like most people, I am warning you to stay away from fizzy drinks, coffee, and tea, as these can leave you dehydrated. Instead, opt for water. But, if you are like me, quitting…

Day Twenty-One: And Bad Mistakes, I’ve Made a Few

I can tell you from experience that nothing eats away at your good intentions the way regret and shame can. Carrying a load of shame associated with past mistakes will not only weigh you down, it will prevent you from even trying to reach for new and better things. The internal dialogue goes like this:…

Day Twenty: The Nuts and Bolts

We are coming into the home stretch and if you haven’t started planning your meals for Ramadan yet, I advise you to get on the ball. No, I know there are some favorites out there. You know, the deep fried, swimming in gravy, heavily seasoned, aromatic masterpieces that seem to spin themselves out of kitchens everywhere…

Day Nineteen: Journaling is a thing!

We all know one of the best ways to get the best out of yourself is to write things down. Literally.  Daily affirmations, goals, deadlines, to-do lists, even regular reflections all help us to be our better selves. So today I wanted to refer you to two resources that I think will help you to…

Day Eighteen: On Purpose

This is not a post about the purpose of your creation or even about finding the purpose of life. Both of those subjects have been written about millions of times be people more equipped to talk about them than I am.  This post is about putting purpose back into the things that you already do. …

Day Seventeen: For the kids!

Since we are about two weeks away from D-day, I think it’s time to start thinking about the most important people in our lives…the kiddies.  Whether you are a parent, grandparent, aunt/uncle, or just somebody in the community who helps with “youth activities”, making sure that the children in our care have a positive Ramadan…

Day Sixteen: Cleanliness & Godliness

Today I wanted to talk about the nuts and bolts of Tahara, ritual cleanliness. I also wanted to remind us all that good grooming and keeping our homes clean is an important part of our religion. I say this because I have met sisters whose homes are sorely neglected. I can understand how this can…

Day Fifteen: Heavenly Ornaments

Today I want to talk to you about something near and dear to my heart.  Books. This post is not a reading list or a review of my favorite books. This is a call to remind me and you how important reading is to our deen. We are the inheritors of a message that began…